Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery.
— J.K. ROWLING, HARRY POTTER & THE GOBLET OF FIRE

RESOURCES

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LOCAL & NATIONAL RESOURCES

National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or visit
www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

Domestic Violence Coalition 1-888-655-9008 (Van Buren County)

Sylvia’s Place Domestic Abuse Shelter & Services 1-888-411-7837 (Allegan County)

United Way of Van Buren County Resource Guide (hospitals, schools, social services, government offices, and more) Download PDF

 

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other phone numbers for support

Bullying: 1-800-420-1479
Depression: 1-630-482-9696
Eating Disorders: 1-847-831-3438
Grief Support: 1-650-321-3438
Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
Rape & Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673
Runaway: 1-800-843-5200 | 1-800-843-5678
Self Harm: 1-800-DONT CUT
1-800-344-HELP
Suicide: 1-800-784-8433
Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386
Veterans Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255

 


SUGGESTED READINGS

ADULTRY

  • Adultery: The Forgivable Sin – Bonnie Weil
  • After The Affair: Healing The Pain & Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful – Janis Abrahams Spring
  • How Could You Do This To Me? Learning To Trust After Betrayal – Dr. Jane Greer
  • How To Save Your Marriage From An Affair – Dr. Ronnie Edell
  • Infidelity: A Survival Guide – Don & David Lusterman
  • Love & Betrayal: Broken Trust In Intimate Relationships – John Amodeo
  • Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust & Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity – Shirley Glass
  • The Emotional Affair: How To Recognize Emotional Infidelity & What To Do About It – Ronald Potter – Efron
  • The Truth of Cheating: Why Men Stray & What You Can Do To Prevent It – Gary Nauman
  • When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships – Mira Kirshenbaum
  • When Your Lover is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception & Betrayal – Susan Forward

Aging

  • Aging Without Apology: Living The Senior Years With Integrity & Faith – Robert E. Seymour
  • Finding Meaning In The Second Half of Life – James Hollis

Alcoholism

  • Adult Children Of Alcoholics – Janet Woititz

  • After The Tears: Reclaiming The Losses Of Childhood – Janet Middleton Moe & Lorie Dwinell
  • Alcoholism Volumes I, II and III – Toby Drews
  • Children Of Alcoholism: A Survivor’s Manual – Judith Seixas
  • Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives To Nagging, Pleading, & Threatening – Robert Mayers & Brenda Wolfe
  • I’ll Quit Tomorrow: A Practical Guide To Alcoholism Treatment – Vernon Johnson
  • It Will Never Happen To Me – Claudia Black
  • Perfect Daughters: Adult Daughters of Alcoholics – Robert Ackerman

Anger

  • Anger: How to Recognize & Cope With It – Leo Madow, M.D.
  • Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion – Carol Tavris
  • Facing Anger: How To Turn Life’s Most Troublesome Emotion Into A Personal Asset – Norman Rohrer & S. Phillip Sutherland
  • The Dance Of Anger – Harriet Lerner
  • When Anger Hurts & Quieting The Storm Within – Matthew McKay, Peter Rogers & Judith McKay

Borderline Personality Disorder

  • Get Me Out Of Here: My Recovery From Borderline Personality Disorder – Rachel Reiland
  • I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me – Jerold J. Kreisman and Hal Strauss
  • Stop Walking On Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder – Randi Kreger
  • The Essential Family Guide To Borderline Personality Disorder: New Tools & Techniques to Stop Walking on Eggshells – Randi Kreger

Communication

  • Crucial Confrontations – Kenny Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, Al Switzler
  • Crucial Conversations – Kenny Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, Al Switzler
  • How To Talk So People Will Listen – Steve Brown
  • Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus – John Gray
  • Please Understand Me – David Keirsey , Marilyn Bates
  • The Dance Of Connection – Harriet Lerner
  • You Just Don’t Understand Me – Deborah Tanner

Divorce/Ending of Relationship

  • Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building A New Life – Abigail Trafford
  • How To Break Your Addiction To A Person – Howard Halpern
  • How To Survive The Loss Of A Love – Harold Bloomfield
  • Obsessive Love: When Passion Holds You Prisoner – Susan Forward
  • Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends – Bruce Fisher

Domestic Violence

  • Free Yourself From An Abusive Relationship – Andrea Lissetle & Richard Kraus
  • Stalking: A Handbook For Victims – Emily Spenee – Diehl
  • Stopping A Stalker: A Cop’s Guide To Making the System Work For You – Cpt. Robert L. Snow
  • Surviving A Stalker: Everything You Need To Know To Keep You Safe – Linden Gross
  • The Gift Of Fear – Gavin De Becker
  • The Sociopath Next Door – Martha Stout
  • The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It & How To Respond – Patricia Evans
  • Trauma & Recovery: The Aftermath Of Violence, From Domestic Abuse To Political Terror – Judith Herman

Family of Origin/Healing the Inner Child

  • Adult Children: The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families – John Friel & Linda Friel
  • Healing The Child Within – Charles Whitfield
  • Healing The Shame That Binds You – John Bradshaw
  • Homecoming: Reclaiming & Championing Your Inner Child – John Bradshaw
  • Your Inner Child Of The Past – Hugh Missildine
  • The Magical Child Within You – Bruce Davis
  • You Can Heal Yourself – Louise L. Hay

Grief

  • A Grief Observed – C.S. Lewis
  • A Time To Grieve: Meditations For Grieving After The Death Of A Loved One – Carol Staudacher
  • Final Gifts: Understanding The Special Needs & Communications Of The Dying – Maggie Callahan
  • Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief – Martha Whitmore Hickman
  • How To Survive The Loss Of A Love – Harold Bloomfield
  • Lessons Of Love: Rediscovering Our Passion For Life When All Seems Too Hard To Take – Melody Beattie
  • Losing A Parent – Fidora Marshall
  • Surviving Grief & Learning To Live Again – Catherine Sanders
  • The Grief Club – Melody Beattie
  • The Needs Of The Dying: A Guide For Bringing Hope, Comfort & Love To Life’s Final Chapter – David Kessler
  • Wet Earth & Dreams: A Narrative of Grief & Recovery – Jane Lazaure

Life Challenges/Coping Skills

  • Anatomy Of An Illness – Norman Cousins
  • Broken Open – Elizabeth Lesser
  • Get The Junk Out Of Your Trunk: Let Go Of The Past To Live Your Best Life – Duane Vander Klok
  • Imperfect Control: Our Lifelong Struggles With Power & Surrender – Judith Viorst
  • Lessons of Love: Rediscovering Our Passion For Life When All Seems Too Hard To Take – Melody Beattie
  • Living Through Personal Crisis – Ann Kaisey Stearns
  • Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life – Byron Katie
  • Making Sense Of Suffering: The Healing Confrontation With Your Own Past – J. Konrad Stettbacher
  • Rapid Relief From Emotional Distress: A New, Clinically Proven Method For Getting Over Depression & Other Emotional Problems Without Prolonged or Expensive Therapy – Gary Emery & James Campbell
  • Tapping The Healer Within: Using Thought Field Therapy To Instantly Conquer Your Fears, Anxieties, & Emotional Distress – Roger J. Callahan & Richard Trubo
  • Transitions: Making Sense Of Life Changes: Strategies for Coping With the Difficult, Painful, and Confusing Times in Your Life – William Bridges
  • When Life Becomes Worthwhile – Robert E. Seymour
  • When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times – Pema Chodron

Marriage

  • A Book For Couples – Hugh & Gayle Prather
  • Caring & Commitment – Lewis Smedes
  • Divorce Busting: A Step By Step Approach To Making Your Marriage Loving Again – Michele Weiner-Davis
  • Getting It Right The First Time & Creating A Healthy Marriage – Barry & Emily McCarthy
  • How To Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It – Patricia Love & Steven Stasny
  • Keeping The Love You Find – Harville Hendrix
  • Keeping The Spark Alive & Preventing Burnout In Love and Marriage – Aylla Pines
  • Lies At The Altar: The Truth About Great Marriages – Dr. Robin L. Smith
  • Marriage Rules – Harriet Lerner
  • Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love & Intimacy Alive In Committed Relationship – David Schnarch
  • Proper Care & Feeding Of A Husband – Dr. Laura Schlessinger
  • Proper Care & Feeding Of Marriage – Dr. Laura Schlessinger
  • The Challenge of Marriage – Rudolf Dreikurs
  • The Dance Of Intimacy – Harriet Lerner
  • The Five Love Languages – Gary Chapman
  • The Marriage Of Sex & Spirit – Edited by Geralyn Gendoeau
  • The New Rules of Marriage – Terrence Real
  • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work – John Gottman
  • Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married – Gary Chapman
  • Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay – Mira Kirshenbaum

Men & Fathers

  • Absent Fathers, Lost Sons: Search For Male Identity – Guy Corneau
  • Silent Sons – Robert Ackerman

Mid-Life

  • Celebrate Mid-Life: Jungian Archetypes & Mid-Life Spirituality – Janice Brewi & Anne Brennan
  • Mid-Life: Psychological & Spiritual Perspectives – Janice Brewi & Anne Brennan
  • Necessary Loses – Judith Viorst
  • New Passages – Gail Sheeny
  • The Male Mid-Life Crisis: Fresh Starts After 40 – Nancy Mayer

Mother-Daughter Relationship

  • Perfect Women: Daughters Who Love Their Mothers But Don’t Love Themselves – Collette Dowling
  • The Mother-Daughter Dance – Harriet Lerner

Narcissism

  • It’s All About Him: How To Identify & Avoid The Narcissist Male Before You Get Hurt – Lisa Scott
  • Trapped In The Mirror – Elan Golomb
  • Why Is It Always About You – Sandy Hotchkiss

Parenting

  • 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline For Children – Thomas Phelan
  • Becoming The Parent You Want To Be: A Sourcebook Of Strategies For The First Five years – Laura Davis & Janis Keyser
  • Caring For Your Baby & Young Child 5th Edition : Birth To Age 5 – American Academy of Pediatrics
  • Dr. Spock’s Baby & Child Care: 8th Edition – Benjamin Spock & Robert Needlman
  • Gymboree Play & Learn: 1001 Fun Activities For Your Baby & Child (Gymboree Play & Music) – Dr. Roni Cohen Leiderman & Dr.Wendy Masi
  • Mom Book: 4278 Of Mom Central’s Tips For Moms – Stacy DeBroff
  • Mom’s House, Dad’s House: Making Two Homes For Your Child – Isolina Ricci
  • Positive Discipline – Jane Nelson
  • Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too – Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
  • The Big Book Of Parenting Solutions: 101 Answers To Your Everyday Challenges & Wildest Worries – Michele Borba
  • The Happiest Baby On The Block – Harvey Karp
  • The Mommy Guide – Susan Bernard

Passive-Aggressive Behavior

  • Angry Men, Passive Men: Understanding the Root of Men’s Anger & How To Move Beyond It – Marvin Allen
  • Living With The Passive Aggressive Man: Coping with This Frustrating Miscommunication Between Men & Women – Scott Wetzler

Relationship

  • Addictive Relationships: Reclaiming Your Boundaries – Jay Miller
  • All Titles By – John A. Sanford
  • Beyond Co-Dependency – Melody Beattie
  • Co-Dependent No More – Melody Beattie
  • Conscious Loving: The Journey To Commitment: A Way To Be Together Without Giving Up Yourself – Gay & Kathlyn Hendricks
  • Creating Love: The Next Great Stage of Growth – John Bradshaw
  • Crucial Confrontations – Kerry Patterson et al
  • Crucial Conversations – Kerry Patterson et al
  • Getting The Love You Want: A Guide for Couples – Harville Hendrix
  • Getting To “I Do” – Dr. Patricia Allen
  • How To Heal A Painful Relationship & If Necessary Part As Friends – Bill Ferguson
  • How To Talk So People Will Listen – Steve Brown
  • Keeping The Love You Find: A Guide for Singles – Harville Hendrix
  • Love & Intuition – Sherrie Dillard
  • Please Understand Me – David Keirsey & Marilyn Bates
  • Real Love: The Truth About Finding Unconditional Love & Fulfilling Relationships – Greg Baer, M.D.
  • Receiving Love: Transform Your Relationship By Letting Yourself Be Loved – Harville Hendrix & Helen Lakelly Hunt
  • Smart Women, Foolish Choices: Finding The Right Men, Avoiding The Wrong Ones – Drs. Connell Cowan & Melvyn Kidder
  • Struggle For Intimacy – Janet Woititz
  • Telling The Truth: Growing Up To Intimacy & Freedom – Brad Blanton
  • The Dance Away Lover & Other Roles We Play In Love, Sex & Marriage – Daniel Goldstine, Katherine Larner, Shirley Zuckerman & Hilary Goldstine
  • The Dance Of Anger – Harriet Lerner
  • The Seven Levels of Intimacy: The Art of Loving & The Joy of Being Loved – Matthew Kelly
  • The Solo Partner: Repairing Your Relationship On Your Own – Phil DeLuca
  • The Two Step: The Dance Toward Intimacy – Ellen McCann
  • Ultimate Partners: Patterns In Love & Marriage – Maggie Scarf
  • What You Feel, You Can Heal – John Gray
  • Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing & Hoping He’ll Change – Robin Norwood

Self-Care/Positive Attitudes

  • All God’s Children Are Lost, But Only A Few Can Play the Piano – Sheldon Knopp
  • Any Title By – Robert A. Johnson
  • Born to Win – Muriel James
  • Change Your Mind, Change Your Life – Gerald Jampolsky & Diane V. Cirincione
  • Co-Dependent No More: Beyond Co-Dependency – Melody Beattie
  • Creating Love: The Next Great Stage of Growth – John Bradshaw
  • Daring Greatly – Brene Brown
  • Fear & Other Uninvited Guests: Tackling The Anxiety, Fear & Shame That Keeps Us From Living & Loving – Harriet Lerner
  • Finding A Life That Is Truly Your Own – Sheldon Kopp
  • Focusing: Step By Step Technique That Takes You Past Getting in Touch with Your Feelings- To Change Them & Solve Your Personal Problems – Eugene Gendlin
  • Forgive & Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don’t Deserve – Lewis Smedes
  • Full Catastrophe Living: Using The Wisdom Of Your Body & Mind To Face Stress, Pain & Illness – Jon Kabat- Zinn
  • Gifts From The Sea – Anne Morrow Lindberg
  • Guilt Is The Teacher, Love Is The Answer – Joan Borysenko
  • Healing The Shame That Binds You – John Bradshaw
  • Homecoming: Reclaiming & Championing Your Inner Child – John Bradshaw
  • Negaholics – Cherie Carter- Scott
  • One Minute for Myself – Spencer Johnson
  • Pathway of Self-Transformation – Eva Pierrakos
  • Take Time For Your Life: A Personal Coach’s 7-Step Program For Creating The Life You Want – Cheryl Richardson
  • Taking the Leap: Freeing Ourselves From Old Habits & Fears – Pema Chodron
  • The Anxiety & Phobia Workbook – Edmund Bourne
  • The Art of Possibility: Transforming Professional And Personal Life – Rosamund Stone Zander
  • The Book Of Qualities – J. Ruth Gendler
  • The Examined Life: How We Lose & Find Ourselves – Stephen Grosz
  • The Precious Present – Spencer Johnson
  • The Right Questions: Ten Essential Questions To Guide You To An Extraordinary Life – Debbie Ford
  • When Helping You Is Hurting Me: Escaping The Messiah Trap – Carren Renee Berry
  • Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: Overcoming Regrets, Mistakes, & Missed Opportunities – Dr. Arthur Freeman & Rose Dewolf
  • You Can’t Afford The Luxury Of A Negative Thought – Peter McWilliams
  • Your Body Doesn’t Lie: Unlock The Power of Your Natural Energy – John Diamond

Sex Abuse/Molestation

  • Courage To Heal – Ellen Bass
  • Ghosts In The Bedroom: A Guide for Partners of Incest Survivors – Ken Graber
  • Healing Your Sexual Self – Janet Woititz
  • The Emotional Incest Syndrome – Dr. Patricia Love & Jo Robinson
  • Trauma & Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence, From Domestic Abuse To Political Terror – Judith Herman

Spirituality

  • A Course in Miracles

  • A Handbook For Humanity: A Guide For Spiritual Progression – The Institute For Enlightenment
  • A New Earth – Eckhart Tolle
  • A Return To Love – Marianne Williams
  • Acres of Diamonds – Russell Conwell
  • Anatomy Of The Spirit – Carolyn Myss
  • Any Title By – John A. Sanford
  • Any Title By – Joel Goldsmith
  • Awareness – Anthony DeMello
  • Balcony People – Joyce Landorf & Heather Long
  • Bluebirds – David Frasure
  • Conversations with God…I, II, & III – Neale Donald Walsh
  • Destiny Of Souls: New Case Studies of Life Between Lives – Michael Newton
  • Even A Stone Can Be A Teacher – Sheldon Kopp
  • Forgive & Forget: Healing The Hurts We Don’t Deserve – Lewis Smedes
  • God On A Harley – Joan Brady
  • Handbook To Higher Consciousness – Ken Keyes, Jr.
  • Illusions – Richard Bach
  • Journey Of Souls: Case Studies Of Life Between Lives – Michael Newton
  • Law Of Attraction – Esther & Jerry Hicks
  • Living On Purpose: Straight Answers To Life’s Tough Questions – Dan Millman
  • Love Poems From God – Daniel Ladinsky
  • Mr. God, This Is Anna – Fynn
  • Mutant Message Down Under – Marlo Morgan
  • No Ordinary Moments: A Peaceful Warrior’s Guide To Daily Life – Dan Millman
  • Nothing By Chance – Richard Bach
  • One Minute Wisdom – Anthony DeMello
  • Richest Man In Town – V.J. Smith
  • Sacred Journey Of The Peaceful Warrior – Dan Millman
  • Seat Of The Soul – Gary Zukov
  • Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Radical Guide To The Fulfillment of Your Dreams – Deepak Chopra
  • Tattoos On The Heart: The Power Of Boundless Compassion – Gregory Boyle
  • The Book Of Awakening: Have The Life You Want By Being Present To The Life You Have – Mark Nepo
  • The Game of Life & How to Play It – Florence Scovel Shinn
  • The Laws Of Spirit: Simple, Powerful Thoughts For Making Life Work – Dan Millman
  • The Life You Were Born To Live: A Guide To Finding Your Life’s Purpose – Dan Millman
  • The Path To Tranquility – His Holiness The Dalai Lama
  • The Power Of The Spoken Word – Florence Scovel Shinn
  • The Road Less Traveled – Scott Peck
  • The Secret – Rhonda Byrne
  • The Secret Door To Success – Florence Scovel Shinn
  • The Song Of The Bird – Anthony DeMello
  • The Spirituality of Imperfection: Storytelling & The Search For Meaning – Ernest Kurtz & Katherine Ketcham
  • The Tao Of Pooh – Benjamin Hoff
  • Unencombered Baggage – Tony DeMello
  • Way Of The Peaceful Warrior – Dan Millman
  • When God Winks At You: How God Speaks Directly To You Through the Power of Coincidence – Squire Rushnell
  • Your Soul’s Plan & Discovering the Real Meaning Of The Life You Planned Before You Were Born – Robert Schwartz
  • Your Word Is Your Wand – Florence Scovel Shinn
  • Energy Medicine – Donna Eden
  • Soul, Mind, Body Medicine: A Complete Soul Healing System For Optimum Health & Vitality – Dr. Zhi Gang Sha
  • The Power Of Soul: The Way To Heal, Rejuvenate, Transform & Enlighten All Life – Dr. Zhi Gang Sha

Women & Fathers

  • The Reconnection: Heal Others, Heal Yourself – Dr. Eric Pearl
  • Fathers & Daughters: For Every Woman, The Startling Truth About You & The First Man In Your Life – William S. Appleton
  • Women & Their Fathers : The Sexual & Romantic Impact Of The First Man In Your Life – Victoria Secunda
  • The Wounded Woman: Healing The Father-Daughter Relationship – Linda Schierse Leonard