It is only with the heart one can see rightly. What is essential is invisible to the eye.
— Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
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Selected as "2017 South Haven Best Family Therapist" with over 55 5-star reviews,  I have  30+ years experience in helping people--a job I about which I am passionate!!  It is a joy and privilege daily for me to therapeutically assist people who seek help. As my client (I do not use the term "patient"), you will receive help in finding healing, -practical life solutions which enrich lives, mend broken hearts, and heal wounded spirits, resulting in profound, transformational changes in all areas of life for recovery and positive self-care.  What a joy to witness the positive, holistic, integrative transformations which result in the client regaining control of his/her life and being HAPPY!

As a licensed clinical social worker/psychotherapist, trained Jungian dream analyst, trained mediator, and crisis debriefer (CISM), I specialize in individual, family, and marriage therapy in both individual and group therapeutic settings with individuals from age 5 to adults.  Working as a therapeutic team using talk therapy, healing techniques, exercises, and coping skills, you can reach your fullest potential.  Through personal control in finding your emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual well-being, while healing present problems, you will create a mentally healthier, happier YOU.  This will affect all aspects of your life. 

As the script- writer, director, and producer of your own life, you will set the agenda  for each of our counseling sessions and the overall therapeutic goal of our work together.   I will assist you in the process of making your life be what you want.  If you do the work of therapy and change the internal narrative with your inner child, you and your life will never be the same!

I do not assume the role of a parent who dictates what a client should do, nor do I claim to be a guru who holds all the answers.  You have the inner resources necessary to sort through the important issues in your life.  With the support of  a guide who can hold up a mirror to help you see yourself more clearly, ask pertinent questions, and assist you on the journey in clarifying the next steps, you can to reach your fullest potential and highest well-being.  

We will work together to remove any obstacles to creating the life you want in relationships, career, emotional, psychological, mental, spiritual, and  physical well-being, along with developing skills to be autonomous in life.  You will experience a release and reconnection with those parts within you which have been suppressed and repressed. 

 I am honored to serve as a “trusted guide” for my clients. You can make your life be the way you want and be happy!

ABOUT

As a South Haven, Michigan-based private practice clinical social worker/psychotherapist since 2011, I have more than 30 years in administrative and clinical experience.  Non-profit, proprietary, community-based, and hospital-based mental health programs which offered both group and individual therapy have served as my training ground.  In addition, I have directed a hospital-based Employee Assistance Program and supervised student interns.  I am fully licensed in both Michigan and North Carolina.

 


Education & Training

I was graduated from Randolph-Macon Woman’s College with a double major:   B.A. in Philosophy and B.A. with Honors in English.  Followed by a Masters in Public Health (MPH --Health Administration specialty) from the University of North Carolina – Chapel Hill,  I obtained a Masters in Social Work (MSW) from the University of South Carolina. In Michigan, I am a Licensed Master Social Worker (LMSW) and in North Carolina, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW).  Having been a member of the National Association of Social Workers since 1996, I maintain clinical integrity and therapeutic skills by attending multiple mental health workshops annually and maintain a current license.


Specialties

 As a privilege and an honor to work with those hurting and needing help, a therapist must maintain integrity and confidentiality in establishing a rapport and therapeutic relationship based on trust and honesty within ethical boundaries. Once a therapeutic bond is established, clinical work proceeds with the client directing the outcome and pace of the sessions.  I especially enjoy the following specialty areas in working with my clients:

DEPRESSION
ANXIETY

ANGER MANAGEMENT
COPING SKILLS

TRAUMA
PARENTING
NARCISSISM

MARRIAGE
FAMILY
INDIVIDUAL
RELATIONSHIPS
SUBSTANCE ABUSE
SEXUAL ABUSE

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 
GRIEF 

As an individual, family, and marriage therapist, I work in both individual and group formats with children over 5 years old, teens, and adults.

 My monthly relationship support and grief support groups are open to the public for casual, informal group-led discussion to gain insight and meet new people experiencing similar situations in a venue safe to express emotions and where confidentiality is honored.

In addition, I lead a closed Sexual Assault Overcomers  group on a weekly basis.  Admission to the group must include an interview with me, and the material is Christian-based.


People who seek my help are my clients, not my "patients." In using a psychodynamic, family systems framework, and Jungian dream analysis, my primary goal is to teach principles by which the client ultimately has the tools/skills to meet life’s challenges – by promoting autonomy, responsibility for the choices one makes, and responsibility for the consequences of those choices. I use the concept of Parent/Adult/Child to convey that the client is the script writer, director, and producer of his/her own life.  If you're not happy with your life, that's a signal something is not right and a correction is necessary to restore healthy balance in all four planes: mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual. 

We will work together to remove any blocks to reaching your potential in relationships, emotional and psychological well-being, along with developing coping skills to be autonomous in life.  In activating the process of personal growth and major transformation to reach the next level of your growth and potential, you will develop abilities and learn to interpret daily events as effective methods for completing unfinished inner work to expedite the way for positive, integrated external change.  My psychological and highly developed intuitive expertise offer an understanding and balanced model for psychological, emotional, mental, and spiritual healing.

We will make space for abundance and joy by releasing old fears related to limitations and past restraints.  By examining the origin of problems and learning to feel and to heal the emotional/psychological issue(s), I will help you remove obstacles to your happiness.  You will be given suggestions for reading materials, exercises, and techniques tailored specifically for you and your situation to enjoy your daily life to the fullest.

I have worked successfully with thousands of clients using a variety of techniques tailored specifically to the client to promote recovery and healing.  I have taught numerous classes and groups on intimacy, relationships, substance abuse, communication, sexual abuse, grief, parenting, personal empowerment, shame, Dialectical Behavioral Training, (DBT), and crisis debriefing.   I feel confident you will know when your work is complete, and you will know when it is time to stop therapy. 

Therapeutic Approach


Confidentiality and integrity within ethical boundaries are essential components of a good and healthy therapeutic relationship.  However, under threat of harm to oneself or to another, or disclosure of child abuse/neglect, I will break confidentiality in accordance with Michigan or North Carolina law.  I do not have to have proof of abuse; suspicion alone is enough to require a report to Adult/Child Protective Services.

In addition, I may not disclose whether an individual is or is not a client or release any information without a signed Consent For Release of Information.

Confidentiality